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Deal 4. Managing Life's Disruptions

Even excluding the wealth of knowledge provided in the last lesson on managing life's disruptions, there is still more to be examined.

There are steps you can take beyond accepting upheaval and planning for upheaval.

That was just the beginning! In fact, there are still three more points that we have to look at.

These points will help you to not only stay calm and collected during disruptions but also healthy and safe.

After all, it can be pretty difficult to deal with extreme change.

But don’t worry! We’re here to help.

Day 4:

In today’s lesson, we’ll be looking at our last three points:

Control, Support and Mind, Body, Health.

Control

At this point, you’re going to start exerting what control you can in the situation.

Remember, upheaval can spiral out of your control at any moment, so if you don’t get things in order now, it’s going to be much worse when disaster hits.

Again, if you’re already in upheaval, you need to regain as much control as possible now, before the situation gets worse.

It’s not always easy to feel in control, especially during a disturbance. Here’s where you want to start building in practices where you create power in your life.

Start with these steps:

Control Your Schedule

During any disruptions, you need to start guarding your resources, including your energy and time.

You really can’t take on anything extra right now.

Start saying ‘no’ to things as soon as possible.

If you’re prepping for future upheaval, it’s likewise a good idea to build some time into your schedule by guarding what you put on it in the first place to keep you from being overwhelmed or unable to act at all should something happen.

Control Influences

If you’re surrounded by people who bring you down, it’s time to set some boundaries.

When in crisis, you certainly don’t need this kind of influence.

Even in preparing for the future, are these the people you want in your life?

Your friends should be people you can count on, who have your back—not those who are more likely to stick at the knife in it at the first opportunity.

Control the Negativity

Just as you don’t need outside influences bringing you down, you don’t need to do it to yourself.

Drop the negative self-talk. In any scenario, this isn’t helpful.

Control Your Growth

It’s up to you to learn what you need when you’re in upheaval. Immediately adopting a growth-mindset means you’re going to take time to figure out how to get that knowledge, and then to go out and do it.

If you’re prepping, it’s time to make a plan to learn things, such as arranging to take a class.

Control Your Emotions

You’re not going to get anywhere in an upheaval if you’re letting your emotions make your decisions for you.

Here’s where you need to exert your control immediately. It’s ok to feel what you feel, but you absolutely must not react without thinking first.

This is the first actual control you need right now, and the most important.

The same holds true for preparation.

Control Your Resources

No matter whether you’re in crisis or preparing for it, you’re going to need the funds.

Everything costs money and let’s face it, if you have a fund for emergencies, you’ll always come out ahead. In preparing for the future, take control of your finances early and start saving for a ‘rainy day.’

During disruptions, you need to immediately begin budgeting what you have to make sure you have for later.

Control Your Actions

Being able to step back and think first without acting is a skill you need to learn no matter where you are in upheaval.

You shouldn’t make a move without first considering the angles and whether your planned action will benefit you or not.

If it is unclear if it will help you in some way, don’t do it.

Support

It’s crucial in this process to build a reliable support system consisting of those friends and family who me you can trust to be on your side.

But remember, if you’re expecting people to be on your inner circle, you’ve got to expect to be a support for them when they need you as well.

Here are some tips for building a support system when you don’t already have one in place:

Start with Whom You Have

You’re probably already got some people in your corner, so you want to start here with the people you know.

Include only those you’ve found helpful in the past, including those who are always encouraging, upbeat, or those you can trust to tell it like it is.

Develop Interests

If your circle isn’t extensive yet, this would be an excellent time to cultivate some interests and meet new people who are interested in the things you are.

If you’re in the planning stages, this is a great time to join a sports team, engage in hobbies with others, or look for a workout partner.

Typical areas of interest help to build new friendships quickly.

If you’re in the middle of upheaval don’t let that keep you from building relationships in smaller ways, such as joining online groups where you can socialize more at your own pace.

Support groups can be especially helpful at this time.

Identify Roadblocks

Sometimes we push people away because of our history with them. Here’s where you might need to spend some time working through old issues, or even pursuing counseling to help you open up to those around you.

Ask For Help

In the end, no one is going to understand that you need help if you never ask.

You might already have the best support system in the world waiting to carry you through this, but they’re all just waiting for you to ask.

Mind, Body, and Health

In the end, the best way to deal with any major disruption is to face it being sound of mind and body. If your health is suffering, you’re not going to be able to think clearly or to tackle what comes next.

Mental fatigue dulls you out completely.

As you saw in a previous lesson, there are many health problems associated with upheaval. Here is where you mitigate those problems completely.

Take Care Of Your Physical Self

You have to eat right, sleep at least 7 – 9 hours a night, drink plenty of water, and exercise.

These are the core things everybody needs to feel healthy. By focusing on the basics, you’ll give yourself the best chance at getting through the action plan you created in step 3.

Find a Life Balance to Build Emotional Health

Journal to work through emotions.

Take time for yourself.

Meditate.

Find a way to keep calm.

All these things will help you to keep yourself on track as much as possible while going through any upheaval.

The main point here is to address mental health needs.

You have got to give yourself a break.

If you feel like crying, then cry.

If you need to think about something else for a while, indulge in a distraction.

The key here is to put a time limit on all these activities.

A break can become escapism very quickly or turn into wallowing in grief, which isn’t healthy.

Besides, there comes a time when you genuinely do need to get back to work.

Now, let’s take some time to fit these tips into your life.


Day 4 Exercise: Getting Through Life's Disruptions

Now that we’ve gone over our last three points on working your way through disruptions, it’s time to finalize your comprehension of them.

After these exercises, you should have a solid idea of how you would organize your life to get through upheaval.

From the people you want around you to maintain a healthy mind, there are many things to consider in such a situation, which is why we’re examining them in such detail.

Let’s jump right in.

Step 1: Reflecting on the tips listed in today’s lesson on controlling a situation during a disruption, brainstorm some ideas as to how you would control things during the upheaval.

Include some ideas pertaining to each section of control listed.

Brainstorm Your Ideas Here:




Step 2: It’s always an excellent idea to have a group of people around you who you know will have your back during life's disruptions.

Below, list three of such people in your life.

·       Person 1:


·       Person 2:


·       Person 3:


Step 3: What would be some possible ways that you could meet some new people?

Think of some ideas and then list them below, along with your reasoning as to why you chose them.

·       Idea 1:

     Reasoning 1:


·       Idea 2:

     Reasoning 2:


Step 4: What strategies work best for you when it comes to protecting your mental health?

How do you give your mind a break?

How often do you do these things/ how often would you like to do these things?

How would that change during an upheaval?

Brainstorm Your Ideas Here: